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| Bella Hadid dons skinny shades |
| Tie-dying your clothes proved a popular pastime |
Part 3 of my style inspo series is going to look at one woman who might not have Kate Moss's bone structure, or Marilyn Monroe's sexy vulnerability and classic beauty, But Iris Apfel has more style than all the women on my list put together. For me, Iris Apfel's style radiates it's own perfection. One of the main reasons I love Iris's style, is that she loves a good accessory as much as I do. Sure, her clothes are bold and she puts things together in a way I could never imagine doing - she's one of those people who can clash prints perfectly, in that Miu Miu way that I seem to struggle with = but Iris clearly loves her jewellery and her glasses - and as such, is a woman after my own heart. If I could spend a day poking around Iris's jewellery collection, I would be one happy, shiny magpie. Just don't ask her what her favourite accessory is. When one fashion journalist dared raise the subject, she was rebuffed immediately, "Why do you fashion people always ask that question? I have several accessories, I couldn’t pick just one! It’s like asking me ‘Who is your favourite child?’
In a paean to Iris on her 99th birthday, journalist Kettj Talon wrote: "Mrs Apfel's style is unconventional, eccentric, excessive, bold, layered, coloruful, baroque. Dressing for Iris is a process of jazz improvisation. Following only her rhythm and attitude, Iris is a master at mixing pieces found in flea markets with others of haute couture. Her outfits are a free combination of eras, cultures, made of everything she loves: bracelets, bright colours, bold prints, Balenciaga, Dries Van Noten, Oscar de la Renta, marabou feathers, furs, plastic jewellery, ethnic garments, denim, Her motto? "Forget the rules, if you like it wear it.""
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| Iris celebrating her 99th birthday. She is due to celebrate her 100th this month |
Whereas most 'It' girls have faded into obscurity well before their first wrinkle (largely because, sadly, the media has little interest in women of a certain age),. but Iris has her own view on the subject, commenting, “If you can’t be pretty, you have to learn to make yourself attractive. I found that all the pretty girls I went to high school with came to middle age as frumps, because they just got by with their pretty faces, so they never developed anything. They never learned how to be interesting. But if you are bereft of certain things, you have to make up for them in certain ways. Don’t you think?”

Iris and her hustand, Carl, in 1947
But from the beginning, who is she, and how did the fame start?
Iris worked her life as an Interior Designer with her husband, Carl, the love of her life and partner for over 70 years til the day he died. They set up their own successful textile company and designing for the Kennedy's as well as a contract with the White House that spanned 9 presidencies. She did not become famous til her mid 80s, when when the Costume Institute at the Metropolitan Museum of Art showed her wardrobe in an exhibit called Rara Avid (Rare Bird): The Irreverent Iris Apfel. Self deprecatingly, she calls herself a "geriatric starlet". But really she is also a world-famous fashion icon, a regular front-row guest at fashion shows. She has over a million followers on Instagram where she shows off her different outfits in her extravagantly styled apartment. - an apartment that's chock-full of European antiques she's collected on her travels, clashing fabrics, eclectic artwork and racks and racks of her extensive clothing and accessory collections. Architectural Digest's peek inside her home is nothing short of fascinating.
In a recent interview, Iris gave her own take on beauty and style, commenting they were all about individuality and confidence:
“Beauty is largely in your head. When you’re somebody who’s not a natural beauty, but you're attractive, it’s about smoke and mirrors in a way. There are certain things I know look more attractive on me than others, and certain ways that my hair looks better. If you spend a little time on yourself, you usually get results. And confidence is very important. No matter how pretty you are, if you look ill at ease in your own skin, then you're not going to look so beautiful. I think serenity can be a large part of someone’s beauty.
When asked if it is possible to buy style, Iris responded "Style has nothing to do with money. It's a matter of attitude. The most stylish people I ever saw were in Naples right after the Second World War. They were really threadbare but put themselves together with so much dash, like placing a flower in the buttonhole of a tattered suit."
"I like simple, architectural clothes. With accessories, you can make 50 outfits. I learned that from my mother because I was a child of the Depression."
Most importantly Style is not about what you wear, but how you wear it:
“Style is not about wearing expensive clothes. You can have all kinds of money and have no style at all. You can be dressed in the latest couture, shod in ten-thousand-dollar shoes and be baubled to the nines, and look like a Christmas tree. It’s not what you wear but how you wear it.
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| Iris Apfel immortalised at 96 with her own image Barbie weraing a copy of her green Gucci suit and oversized glasses |
While I admire Iris' ability to clash patterns and colours, she would be a pretty difficult style inspiration for someone who lives in black - you would think. But Iris does do black. we have witnessed many occasions where the style star chooses black instead. She, of course, has a range of jet-black jewellery to throw on, but when it comes to wearing darker clothes, her outlook revolves around texture, texture and more texture. Think embroidery, Mongolian lambswool, beading, fur, leather and silks.
On style today Apfel had this to say. “In New York you can almost tell a person’s zip code by the way they dress. People say they want to look different but they all want to be in a pack… God put you on the earth as an individual, not as a pack-member.”
Speaking on how to develope your own personal style, she says the key is to put in effort. “First of all it’s work. You have to know who you are. You have to know yourself,” she says. “You have to know what you can pull off, what you feel comfortable with, what you can afford; all of that and work accordingly,” adding that doing your research is crucial. “Look at a lot of magazines, shops, other people, hone your eye and decide what you like.”
"When you get older, as I often paraphrase an old family friend, if you have two of anything, chances are one of them is going to hurt when you get up in the morning. But you have to get up and move beyond the pain. If you want to stay young, you have to think young. Having a sense of wonder, a sense of humour, and a sense of curiosity — these are my tonic.
They keep you young, childlike, open to new people and things, ready for another adventure. I never want to be an old fuddy-duddy; I hold the self-proclaimed record for being the World’s Oldest Living Teenager and I intend to keep it that way.”
When asked what style mantra she lived by, Iris answered,
I don’t live by style, I have a lot of other things to live by. I don’t have any mantras, I don’t have any rules, I dress the way I please and I do what I please and I do everything for my good. I don’t intellectualise it or make up rules and regulations.
Spoken like a true style icon. Happy Birthday Iris!!!
A friend of mine recently decided that she wanted to change her style now that she was in her 40s. She always had her own sense of what she liked and was never afraid to experiment, so I was surprised when she started searching online, speaking to stylists, buying books on how to dress - because for me, consulting others on how to dress was never something I would consider. Fashion has always seemed something organic to me, something that might be a mish-mash of different sources, but never something that I had to research as such.
But then when I thought about it, maybe we are not all as original as we think. I've always been interested in fashion - read fashion magazines, books on fashion, gone to exhibitions and watched documentaries. I've followed fashion weeks across the globe to see what the latest trends are and kept up to date on what my favourite designers are putting out. But most of all - I've always been a people watcher. The best fashion, and if you really want to be ahead of the crowd - it to know what's going on on the street. I live in Camden, so I've always been surrounded by fashion on the street - going to Sainsbury's for a pint of milk and walking along the high street - particularly on a weekend - is like a melting pot of all the latest styles and influences. If it were an ice-cream, it would be every flavour in the shop with all the sprinkles and a flake.
I always thought that my style was my own - as original as it could be. I don't chase the latest trends. I never did the puffball, you'll never catch me in a pleated midi length skirt as they make me look colossal - as do empire line dresses. And I've always felt - odd - in baseball hats. Perhaps this is the difference between following fashion and having your own style? Or is it that now I've got older, I have a better idea of what suits me?
But is anyone truly an original? I see lots of people with great style - but is anyone really that unique? If you hang out in Shoreditch or the trendy parts of Hackney you'll come across a lot of people who dress cool. They know how to mix vintage with designer and hight street. They look hip for sure. But they also all look the same.
Rather than being the trailblazers we think we are, maybe whether we like it or not, we take in what we see and form our own version of this - which would mean that no-one is really original, but some people might have a great sense of style.
So who is deciding what is fashionable at any given time? There's an old adage that says fashion is just recycled every 10 years and reworked to fit in with modern tastes. And we all gobble it up, afraid of being out of the loop or left behind.
If you Google, 'who decides what is fashionable?', you are met with this creepy answer that sounds like something from a QAnon pamphlet:
"People in the fashion business say trends are rarely decided by individuals. Instead, they are decided by committee. One of the most influential committees is a group of 10 people whose names are a secret."
The truth is a little less elusive, but not by much. Whereas once upon a time, the King of Queen over the top wardrobe was seen as the pinnacle of taste and trends then filtered down to the masses (Louis XIV was the King of Couture, darling and Queen Elizabeth's ruffs were fire). More recently Fashion Houses might have called the shots, but since the birth of the Internet, social media and influences, sub-cultures and kids on the street are now the major influencers of fashion forecasters.
Fashion write Sneha Conda has listed exactly how trends make it to your wardrobe. She writes:
🛍 ️Trend forecasters use the above information to analyze and predict trends up to 10 years into the future.
🛍️ Data from trend forecasters and in-house designers are combined and a collection of 30–120 pieces is designed by fashion houses.
🛍️ A sample range and lookbook is rolled out for fashion buyers at stores like Saks, Nordstrom, Bergdorf Goodman etc.
🛍️ Collections are released as Spring/Summer and Autumn/Winter, twice a year during fashion shows that are held six months in advance of the season.
🛍️ Based on what’s trending, fashion buyers decide what to stock and how much of it, in their stores. If you complain that everything in fast fashion chains like H&M and Zara look the same, it’s because they subscribe to the same trend forecasts. They then translate trends from the runway into much lower-priced versions.
🛍️ Dependent on the demand, the fashion garment supply chain gets cracking and the trends are manufactured and shipped to stores across the world.
🛍️ Early adopters and online influencers then wear $1,425 destroyed sneakers that look like they were definitely attacked by feral dogs and over-sized moth-chewed sweaters and make you hate yourself, but make you want it too.
And that folks, is science.
So if fashion is disposable (clothes waste, recycling, upcycling etc is a whole other story I will write about some day).
Which brings us to the age old question, what is the difference between fashion and style? Yves Saint Laurent once quipped, "fashions fade, style is eternal." He of course, is a man who would know, and this most certainly rings true. However, his clothes were certainly part of fashion - Le Smoking is still referenced today, half a century after it first hit the catwalk. So what is the difference between the two? Indeed is there a difference?
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| David and Victoria Beckham in thieir youth and in head to toe Gucci leather. |
Fashion is defined as what is being presented and worn by the masses at any given period. It is a craze, a passing phenomenon. When you follow fashion, you are essentially in a comparison mode, desiring to appear and be viewed in the same way as everyone else. You purchase and wear the same clothing that are sold in stores, portrayed in the media, and demonstrated on the runway. It may be tiresome, not to mention a financial burden, to have to keep up with the seasonal trends of the day.
On the other hand, style is distinct and highly personal. It is a distinctive manner of expressing oneself. Instead, it is a reflection of your persona. Fashion is transient, however style is eternal to paraphrase Yves. It is possible to have style without fashion, but not fashion without style. Style, it would appear, transcends fashion. You can be stylish without following all the latest trends.
Your style is personal - it is about establishing your own distinct look. In cultivating your own style, you are instantly imbued with an inner confidence and charisma. Style can take time, and work. Think of David Beckham in his youth - all 90s curtains, head to toe designer looks, matching leather outfits with Victoria, and who can forget the sarong incident? So-wrong! But today, with his easy, laid back jeans and t-shirt style, earthy tones and baker boy hats, he is always topping mens 'most stylish' lists. His tattoo sleeves and immaculately groomed hair and beard are copied the world over. He is undoubtedly, whether you like his style or not, a male style icon.
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| David Beckham sports a more laid back style these days, that is copied the world over. |
There is a school of thought that says it is more important to focus on an overall style, rather than aiming to be fashionable. Designer Marc Jacobs once said, “I’m a bit suspicious of men who follow fashion too closely.”
By developing your style, you create your own self-brand. Your style is all about how you present yourself to the world, and this is what I think my friend wanted to shake up. Fashion is fun and frivolous, and part of growing up involves experimenting with what you like and don't like. True style, on the other hand, commands attention. It requires a comfortability in ones own skin as it may require you to stray from what is deemed popular. It may occasionally mean you are accidentally in fashion, or it may mean you are accidentally out of it, but this is irrelevant. Style, in this sense, is always fresh and timeless. While trends come and go, if you have a sense of style that works for you - and that you feel confident wearing, you will always look good.
All this got me thinking about my own sense of style. Who inspired it? How did it evolve? So for the next couple of weeks, I will be examining who inspired my own stlyle, from my mother to Madonna, the list is quite eclectic!